Healing from the Effects of Abuse


God is spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.” John 4:24

We have been talking about Christians who struggle. We have been talking about Christians who just cant seem to break free from pain. There is only one starting place and that is the truth that Christ has come to set us free. We must know that the Lord’s promises are “yes” and “amen” for all of His children. Sometimes however, the effects of sin in our lives has been so deeply embedded in us that our identities have been fractured and although we find victory in so many areas, there is a deep underlying fear that we can never be whole this side of heaven. What’s worse is that the enemy of our souls has no mercy and he prods at that very fear, keeping it alive and growing until our behavior begins to act out the lie instead of us walking in the truth.

People that have gone through abuse feel as though something is inherently wrong with them. There is a deep imprint on their souls that they are damaged beyond repair. Somewhere in their thinking is the lie that says they either deserved it, created it, or could have done better at stopping it. They take into themselves the responsibility of the abuse – why? Because, that’s an abusers modus of operation – blame and shame.

Our salvation is instantaneous in the fact that when we come to the Lord we are immediately transferred from the kingdom of darkness and into the kingdom of light. But truly, we are also being saved as we behold the glorious face of our risen Savior. I have learned one thing over the years. God is big and bold and certainly makes Himself known in powerful ways when it comes to evangelism. But He is ever so gentle as He waits for us to be ready to receive His healing in those deep, dark haunts of our soul. He is so masterful at taking the broken potsherd that has been our life in this cruel world and reshaping it into a vessel made for His honor. He does not force Himself upon someone who has been forced upon.

Jesus has all authority. He is all that you need for life and wholeness. He has come to give you abundant life and He does that by taking the fractures that sin creates and the subsequent lies that embed themselves into our beings upon Himself. See He allowed Himself to be so beaten and marred, fractured beyond anything that we could imagine, so that we might be completely whole. Only Jesus can do that.

So why do we continue to carry the pain and fragmentation when Jesus wants us to appropriate the healing that He has already won for us? There are probably many reasons, but two come to mind. One, we have created strongholds that serve as self-protection mechanisms. We most likely needed them at the time of the trauma, but now they keep us from dealing truthfully with the pain in our hearts and the shame of our souls. These mindsets have just become our way of life and until the Lord shatters them, we simply don’t see. The other reason is that we look to empty idols to fill the holes and don’t seek after Jesus with everything that we are in order to get well. Often, we are working so hard at being well through our own righteousness that we have become blind to ourselves. Its not intentional. We thought we were doing right, but notice something in John 3:21. The scripture doesn’t say whoever does what is right comes to the light. It says this, “But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God.”

So what do we need in order to experience wholeness in the most fractured places of our souls? >”Those who worship Me, worship in spirit and in truth.” We need truth in our inmost being. The only way for that to happen is to do the unthinkable for someone who has battled the despair of shame in their soul because of the actions of another. We have to let another prod into that place again, however this time, He is not going to hurt us. We have to ask Jesus to give us a revelation of truth in the place of our soul that is clinging to a lie. When the Holy Spirit imprints in that very area the truth of who you are in Christ, the lie dissipates and the fracture is eradicated. It takes trust, vulnerability, and faith to allow the Lord to use whatever circumstances He chooses in order to get you to open up to His healing – Oh but dear one, don’t you think that you have allowed that abuse to shame you long enough? Don’t you want to be well?

About Anna Kristene

Wife, mother, grandmother, student, teacher, mentor who loves Jesus.
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